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Post by Swede on May 18, 2008 18:09:41 GMT -5
Many of you know this story. And for those who don't, here I will fill you in:
My parents have been arguing a lot, starting last fall. They have been going to counseling and keeping me up at night, whispering scary things in the next room. Also, I have lived in this house my entire life, have finally managed to find a set of solid and wonderful friends (I'm no good at the friend-finding thing.) So I like it here, and this whole charade has upset my life.
And now things have come to a terrible halt. Today, mother and father pulled me and CF into the living room, sat us down on the couch, and told us:
1) we are getting divorced. 2) dad is moving out until the divorce is completed. 3) mom is moving back to Sweden. We will be forced along. 4) no worries, you can always come back here for college if you like. 5) there is no chance of fixing things.
So most of you know that I will be in Sweden all summer. This new turn of events means that I might never come back. I will be living in a different country halfway across the world, no friends and no dad, going to a school where everything is taught in my second language. I am about to throw up, I can feel my stomach churning. This is depressing and I have been bawling my eyes out for three hours.
Please don't take it personally if I promise a post and then don't post, or forget about threads, or simply don't bother posting because I'm too lazy. Don't feel offended if I snap at you on the cbox. This is a stressful situation, and very disorienting. I don't want to come off as a jerk and have you all hating me.
Also, several howrses are up for sale and more will be sold soon. Trying to cut down in preparation for summer and possible quitting, and I don't like the new layout. Drives me insane, it's stupid. Plus things are getting monotonous- you know, the stroke-groom-train-pasture-feed-carrot-blablablablabla routine day in and day out, 25 times a day. It's dead boring. But I'll still hang around for at least a little while.
In the meantime, please cross your fingers for me. Who knows, a miracle could happen and my life could be salvaged. But I have no hope.
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Post by lilmisspony on May 19, 2008 1:39:54 GMT -5
NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
Swede, you can't go! You simply can't! Pony will miss you far too much.
*huggles swede* Something good will come of this, I can promise you. Mother always insists that everything happens for a reason, and I do beleive that what has happened will eventually benefit you.
but still....
NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!
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Post by flyff on May 19, 2008 14:47:51 GMT -5
Swede, I will duct tape you to a chair if I'm forced to. Thou shalt not leave >.<;;; Or I might kill you. Heh >.>;;;
I feel seriously bad for you D: I've felt that syndrome before... the year before last year I had to live in China. Thankfully my parents were still together though... it was just some crap about my mom's job ---.---
Flyffers might die if you leave, though D: And you don't want Flyffers to -die-, do you?
Aaweh D':
<3Flyffers
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Post by naztuki on May 19, 2008 17:33:40 GMT -5
Sorry swede. Try to see the good of this, thinking about the bad will just make it worse. My parents have been seperated/divorced since I can remember.
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Post by bullseye14 on May 19, 2008 18:56:02 GMT -5
Oh man, Swede, that's just awful! I'm so sorry to hear that! Especially because you'll be leaving us. I don't want you to leave! You're one of my best internet buds.
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Post by Swede on May 19, 2008 22:35:27 GMT -5
Thank you, flyff. that has been my similar reaction-- relocate me to middle-of-d**n-nowhere-Sweden and I will jump off the plane halfway across the Atlantic. (not really, I'm not suicidal).
Bright side for you guys: we would eventually get a computer and I could sneak on and post with you lot. But I will lose all my friends and move out of this house where I've lived my entire life. My dad might stay in this house, according to Mom. So I asked her why can't I stay with him then? An she turns around all shocked and is like, "You really want to live with your dad?" Well, DUH! Not really, but anything is better than moving. I've been on the verge of tears all day, and all my friends have offered to kidnap me and hide me in their closets/bathroom sinks/dishwashers etc etc etc. And a couple have said that they are not letting me leave. Not one chance. I have GOOD friends here-- I don't want to get the experience of "making new friends" because friends aren't disposable. You don't have one set of friends for a year or two, and then find some other ones. Especially when it's taken you 6 years to find the friends you actually like. *screams*
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Post by spirit1 on May 20, 2008 12:53:30 GMT -5
SWEDE yoo carnt leave ... who's gonna keep me in line on here ?? ... but ii know how it feels to not want to move your HOME which you've lived in all your life, i'm moving ... but i'm excited !! many of my friends tell me that once you've moved schools and had to make a completely new routine its not so bad it keeps you busy from the reality of your parents divorce, many of my friends parents are seperated ... at one point ii thought mine would too !! it sucks, they even say that after your parents divorce your never the same person... SO DONT CHANGE !!! It sucks that you might be gone, especially as its coming up to Half Term for me ... Yoo can take all your frustration out on me I dont mind kinda use to people doing it got so use to it that I dont take that much offence anymore
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Post by naztuki on May 20, 2008 17:47:56 GMT -5
"You don't have one set of friends for a year or two, and then find some other ones"
LOL, I do that all the time. Not like, have friends, and then ignore them when I get new ones. I will have friends, make new ones, and hang with the new ones more, but I don't forget the old ones. I kind of swap, so I have a lot of friends.
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Post by Swede on May 20, 2008 18:51:16 GMT -5
I don't. Finding friends isn't my specialty. I have maybe 5-6 that I would really call friends at all. And that's taken six years to do. This is terrible, I tell you, just plain awful. I refuse I won't I can't.
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Post by naztuki on May 21, 2008 17:19:30 GMT -5
I'm sorry swede.
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Post by Swede on Jun 1, 2008 18:59:38 GMT -5
In case anyone didn't gather this, it also means CF is moving and stuff, since she's my sister you know.
And yesterday, my mother told me we aren't leaving until end of June, but we won't be coming back after the summer. *fumes*
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Post by Withers on Jun 5, 2008 15:48:08 GMT -5
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
DDD=
Swede, I'm sorry. =/ My parents split up a couple years ago, but nothing drastic really happened -- I visited my dad every other weekend, and I stayed in our same house. Which is, like, seriously good, because I'm homeschooled, and I'm not the best at making friends.
But there is something you can do. Even as a minor, you have rights. You're allowed to stay with your dad for the summer, if you'd like. If you talk to your mom -- tell her the things you've told us -- I'm sure she'd understand. She's your mom -- she knows you'd never stay simply to pick your father over her.
I luff you so much. ;-; If you ever need some help with the divorced-kid-thing, just PM me. Even though I feel so totally clique-ish saying that. ^^; -hugglesyoutodeath-
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Post by Swede on Jun 9, 2008 23:09:22 GMT -5
Mom has been house- and car shopping online, and sent in two job apps. And made me look at different schools. *kills* *burns* *dies*
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Post by spirit1 on Jun 13, 2008 11:29:21 GMT -5
AWWWWW SWEDE !!! *hugs* just hope that something goes wrong. I'm moving on the 26th of June, dreading packing the rest of my room because first of all ii have to sort out whats under my bed --&& i'm arachniphobic and under my beds a hubb of spiders !!-- but anyway ITS AWFUL !! its also the same date that Narnia: Prince Caspian comes out in the cinema's. Bit of good news for me though, seeing my aunt -CATherine- tonight and catnapping one of her cats kittens My parents are fine with it, dont know about my dog though, the kitten will be MY responsibility as will be some of the horses when ii go out to Spain with Jazlynne to compete ... i'll be competing too so its like my first time !! ... she's only competing small time now due to her mum -my auntie- being ill, as you all know, so she has to spend more time taking care of everyone else plus about 200 horses LOL. Thats my mix of good & bad news. Listen Swede, if ever you EVER need somebody to vent your anger out on or talk to i'm a very good listener ! and its proven .... by my many special messed up friends LOL and being Gmod you can see my email so just type to me whenever and whatever way !
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Post by naztuki on Jun 13, 2008 12:05:38 GMT -5
Prince Caspian was a great movie, but not at all like the book. Keep that in mind.
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Post by spirit1 on Jun 13, 2008 12:08:10 GMT -5
swede seeing as ii respect and love you so much .... and yoo too Withers ii want you to smile and laugh .... as such click the link to see the secret of my GURD mood youtube.com/watch?v=kdTqEc-pS6w
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